Question : Why do you always write S.H.I.T. so it looks like an acronym?
Answer : Because it is.
Stuff that Haunts you Into Tomorrow is my terminology for all the crap you carry and allow to take up priority space in your mind, heart and body, even when it is not important to the present moment.
It’s the stuff that happened before, or you think is going to happen, or hasn’t happened yet that you dedicate your attention to, and that takes away from your attention being where it is most beneficial : to the work and practice of Self Crafting.
S.H.I.T. could show up as physical signs of stress like digestive issues, headaches, or memory loss; or behavioural anxiety; or avoidance. It could be the mud-head that keeps you from clear thinking, and it’s certainly got a lot to do with your feelings of not being good enough and comparing yourself with others. That’s a lot of Stuff to keep until tomorrow!
Attention is your greatest commodity – think about how we language attention : you pay it right? Like, I might say, “Were you paying attention to what I was saying?” and your response could be “Yes, it’s important to me,” or “No, I was somewhere else.”
Your attention is a commodity entirely owned by YOU and it’s your choice how to spend it. You can spend your attention on the crap that’s keeping you down, broken, a slave to the wounded culture from which you’ve come OR you can spend your attention on the whispers of your Wild Heart, the part of you that informs your Big Wild Dreams, that which you came here to contribute to make this world everything it can be.
Paying attention is another way to say ‘that which you prioritise’. Most people believe they prioritise the whispers of their Wild Heart, like “I’m all about saving the environment” or “I’m dedicated to ethical XYZ” or insert big save-the-world-ideals-here. As a responsible Self Crafter though, it’s important to get real about where you’re at.
Could you give me a moment of your attention to work a quick exercise in Self Crafting, dear heart? It will pay forward to you too, I promise.
Okay, yes? Good, go get a piece of paper or use your notes app.
Write down the 5 – 10 things that took the most of your time, energy, thought space, being and doing in the last week. It probably includes things like work, planning for retirement, changing nappies, online shopping, Facebook… Whatever it is, do an audit of your day and look at exactly how your attention is soaked up.
Those things on that list : that’s where your attention is being paid. You are giving your most important commodity to those things and thoughts, and they make up the bulk of your priorities.
When I talk about Big Wild Dreams, I’m referring to the whispers of your heart that may be too frightened to shout themselves out loud. They are actually very Big (the perfect size for you), and they are taking up huge spaces OF You. The time you try to ignore your Big Wild Dreams, because you’ve decided they are too big, too wild, too idealistic, too dreamy… That’s hard work ignoring them to pay your attention to other S.H.I.T. What would happen if you spent your priorities on your Big Wild Dreams instead ?
Now, back to the exercise.
On that list, cross off whatever doesn’t align to your Big Wild Dreams. What’s that, you’re not sure? Whispers are hard to hear, especially when there are so many other noisy and annoying priorities shouting over the top, hey? Just start somewhere. It might take a few rounds of this exercise until it really speaks your truth.
That’s normal in a culture that prioritises S.H.I.T rather than Big Wild Dreams. Self Crafting is the work and practise of shaking off the S.H.I.T. so that you can be the artisan of a life that is everything you came here to have and Be.
The main key in Shaking off the S.H.I.T. is simply letting go. You always have choice. Once you see the S.H.I.T.; hear it, notice it – once you become aware of the way you’re spending your attention you can choose to let it go. Drawing a line through the list in the exercise is the first step. And then, each time this S.H.I.T. comes up, draw a metaphorical line through it while it occurs. Notice it, then pay your attention to something that serves you better.
Now, as the last part to our attention exercise, write down the priorities that really do match your Big Wild Dreams. What would your life look like if you were paying attention to the activities, thoughts, concepts, doings and beings that match your Big Wild Dreams? What would you spend your attention on then?
And the leftovers: you can simply let go.
Here are some more resources for aligning with your Big Wild Dreams, paying attention / prioritising and letting go :
- Shaking off the S.H.I.T. ebook of exercises for letting go of Fear >>>
- What if you had a Vision Statement? article >>>
- What if you created One Perfect Day? article >>>
- Prioritise your Big Wild Dreams article >>>
- Lunation Annual Planner – for keeping your attention on track >>>
- Creative Transformative Processes article series for letting go >>>
The September challenge in the Self Crafting Year Book includes more info to help you pay attention to You.
Go well, Self Craft, and create a life that sets you free!
The article What if you choose to simply Let Go? was published by Hollie B., for the Institute for Self Crafting.
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