What if you chose which ‘You’ will make your choices today?
When faced with the opportunity for choice, there can be two Yous who go into battle for first reaction. There’s the You who is determined by your primitive brain, the fast acting, instinctual self that reacts automatically for survival. And the R.E.b.E.L. self, reacting from the modern brain that has developed the ability for mindful attention.
Automatic Self makes choices based on how you managed to survive when things were done before. This You does not take the time to create new habits, because it’s encounters are stimulated by that which worked out okay-enough last time. It’s the human default switch, hardwired by evolutionary biology to ensure that all history is replayed and repeated, so that all patterns are congruent with previous experiences.
R.E.b.E.L. Self is the override switch to your default. It is the You that chooses how and where to pay your attention. R.E.b.E.L. You does not perpetuate habits, it creates new ways of Being. This Self allows you to engage the radical act of Self Crafting to calibrate the choice for excellence; to make and create history. This is the You who decides to break habits and choose different possibilities.
Your Automatic Self can be fast acting and often pessimistic. This You reacts from the point of view : “If I choose this, what am I likely to lose?” Of course, it’s job is to keep you alive and safe. R.E.b.E.L. Self often requires more processing time, yet it will likely have the point of view : “If I choose this, what are the possibilities, and what else will I win?” Practising the act of Self Crafting is the work of retraining You away from automatic, so that your applied reaction originates from R.E.b.E.L. Self.
But how can a Self Crafter activate the R.E.b.E.L. override when everything in your environment requires and perpetuates the default Automatic survival Self?
It’s all about priority. And it’s as simple as making your R.E.b.E.L. Self a priority every single day.
Intention and choice require deliberate action. Wishful thinking gets you nowhere, right? How many times have you heard people say “I want to get better at xyz” yet they never get there. Without prioritising your Big Wild Dreams, you will never make them real.
So start each day by asking, What would be awesome today? Make a mindful choice to pay attention to your automatic responses, and break the pattern. Chose which You will make your choices today.
Tomorrow, choose again. In this way, you’re not having to commit to a huge, overwhelming plan that could possibly come unstuck when life’s needs rear up. Little steps are better than no steps at all. Just take each 24 hour cycle as it comes. And if you fuck it up – if the automatic head space takes over – chalk it up to experience, accept it, and move on. There’s always another moment coming to give you the opportunity to chose differently.
The key is to prioritise each day, first thing! That’s why I designed the Lunation Annual Planner to include a space for question and intention, so that deliberate scheduling of awareness is built into every day, before any other responsibilities/needs get in the way.
Remember, Automatic Self is the one that’s programmed into your reactions. R.E.b.E.L. Self is applied through choice to create and be more. R.E.b.E.L. You says “I will not allow S.H.I.T. to get in the way of being all I can be.” R.E.b.E.L Self knows that being a Leader (the ‘L’ in R.E.b.E.L.) takes processing, letting go, conscious attention, and trust in your Self. Since you are the dreamer of your Big Wild Dreams, they absolutely must be the perfect size for you. You’re the only person who can make them real.
Chose You right now!
Here are some more resources for deliberate prioritisation and making your Big Wild Dreams real :
- Shaking off the S.H.I.T. ebook of exercises for letting go of Fear >>>
- What if you had a Vision Statement? article >>>
- What if you created One Perfect Day? article >>>
- Prioritise your Big Wild Dreams article >>>
- Lunation Annual Planner – for keeping your attention on track >>>
- True Arrow learning resource >>>
The October challenge in the Self Crafting Year Book includes more info for noticing automatic head spaces.
The article What if you choose R.E.b.E.L. You? was published by Hollie B., for the Institute for Self Crafting.
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