What do we do about it?

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Gorgeous darling heart,

Today I write to you from a place of healing. That’s my favourite.

You see, last week was utter hell for me. Like whatever the worst hell is and times it by fifty, that was basically my week. It was hard. And there were lots of tears and very late nights. For so many reasons.

And the ONLY thing that brought me out the other side of that week was the community of awwweeesssoome Women who I called on in the darkest moments. It took guts for me, because I don’t like to admit when I’m down, but I knew which Women I could rely on and say ‘Hey I’m having a fucking shit day’ and they would say, ‘That’s okay, what do you need to speak?’ or ‘Let’s get whatever bits of food we’ve got in our cupboards and make a shared lunch for the children – and we can talk.’ So that’s what happened. And this week, I’m a much nicer person again.

Then this morning I sat down to watch my friend Talulah’s talk at Red Talks. Have you been to this place? It’s awwweeesssoomme for creating conversations and shining a light on what we need to be talking about as communal Women. If you haven’t been there before, go there now. Like seriously don’t even finish reading this article. Go there, and then come back here later when you’ve got more time.

Anyway, so I was listening to Talulah talk, and then I clicked into listening to Adriana talk, and I was awash with that feeling – you know like finally the last push you need to get onto something very serious because the theme just can’t be ignored anymore. That one. I had that in a big way and I had to talk about it. So I made a video in response.

It’s about Isolation in the Women’s Mysteries Movement. The general premise is that we are awwweeesssoomme in Women’s Circle, when we’re all connected and dealing with our SHIT and filling our cups and all that stuff. But what happens when we return to everyday life?

I’ve seen it so many times and it’s something we always talk about in my Circles and Retreats : how to continue to keep our cup full when we go home.

But there’s another step to that, and it’s about how do we continue to STAY CONNECTED to the other Women we have met. And maybe it’s not those Women exactly, but simply the essence of Women together-ness. How do you keep that going when all the Women in your daily life care more about what the Kardashians are doing and how cool their new gym shoes are, than they do about conscious parenting and how the moon is affecting their current bleeding cycle…? What most of us do is pull away from those Women, dreaming of the connection we have with other more conscious and fulfilling Women’s relationships… and then reality hits and we real-eyes that those Women are far away or busy in their own lives, and we don’t know where else to turn. It’s a sure fire way for us to become very isolated, very fast.

So what do we need to do about it?

We need to talk.

We need to talk to the Women in Circle about connection when we get home.

We need to talk to the Women we know who have not experienced this connection and invite them to share it with us.

We need to talk to our families.

We need to talk to the other Women in our Women’s Mysteries communities about the needs of the Village.

We need to feel it and talk. And then talk some more.

So my video for Red Talks is the beginning of the talk. It starts a conversation. It lets you know that you are not the only one feeling alone, isolated or unsure of what to do next.

And it lets you know that we are choosing to make change. There are a community of Soulful Mamas out there, and together we will Be the Change we want.

Enjoy darling heart. Let me know how this sits with you. Be part of the conversation by commenting below here, or on Facebook or on the Red Talks page.



Love you,

The article What do we do about it? was published by Hollie B., for the Institute for Self Crafting.

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3 Responses

  1. Anna Wallace

    Everything you have said I have been feeling. Yes iv also seen an area for growth in the woman’s movement for a more family focused friendly arena were we can be our glorious wemonaly selves but joined together as a family. Iv tried to ties the two together unsuccessful so far. So im back to isolation. Ahhhhh. Grrr. More thinking.

  2. Once again dear Hollie your words touch me ~deeply~…A VERY Different story than mine and yet the same…I too am totally supported by my amazing husband but still I feel the isolation/loneliness and the need to reach out in hope to find the Tribe I “fit” … Vicki

  3. Anastasia

    Wow, Thank you.
    This speaks to me deeply.
    I am so fear-full of this feeling of isolation. I am sick of being different to everyone around me on a day to day thing. I have heaps to say about this but need some processing time

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